Who will understand? Who will make you Understand?
Who will Explain?
This is a strange question?
Focus on Your Self
Within the human Life Cycle, in various stages of this life, God
expects that you will lead an ideal model life and that you will
accomplish the journey of this life completely. You should repeat this
Asaktiranbhiswadagam Putradaargrihaadishu |
Nityam Cha Samchittatvamishtanishtopapatishu ||
Lack of attachment towards children, spouse, wealth and home, a
balanced equanimity within the mind towards favorable and unfavorable objectives, a lack of love towards indulgent and pleasure-seeking people; this entirely summarizes the Sacchidanand essence of a wise person.
The above verse of Geeta imbibes a deep philosophy of life. This
verse clarifies that the source of obstacles is none else but
ourselves. When the tentacles of attachment spread out, then we desire everyone to perform as per our own wish. We desire to control their mind and intellect.
Our mind wishes to dominate the world, and this thought itself makes us feel great and invincible, then finally what happens in this
situation? When we strive to dominate others, then our own growth
halts and our mind gets completely busy 100% with thoughts about the other. This results in disruption and destruction of peace of our own self. The core objective of a person’s life, the primary purpose within life is to provide peace to one’s own soul; we get diverted and
distracted from this basic goal. We just think about the lives of others.
Remember! There are thousands of problems in this world and similarly there are thousands of amenities. The ultimate peace within your life exists only in own self-observation, self-analysis and model behavior.
You are not part of the worldly relations of your parents, siblings,
spouse, children, your society, your friends, or of the world. You
were born alone and you will die alone as well. You alone have to
undergo the pleasures or sorrows of your mind, intellect and
Tulsidasji states –
Kou Na Kaahun Sukh Dukh Kar Daata ||
Nij Krit Karm Bhog Sab Bhrata ||
This life is not sad because of the sorrows of others and similarly is
not happy due to the pleasures of others. Everyone undergoes the
results of his own actions and knowledge. No one else is responsible
for this and no one is guilty for your happiness or sorrow.
The truth is that your inner-soul desires that everyone amongst you
treat everyone fair and squarel and that your mind desires enduring
fame, wealth, achievement and attainment. It wishes for such lifelong
The Model life of Maryada Purushottam Lord Rama and Lord Krishna’s teaches the fact that every man should fulfill all responsibilities and duties towards his family and relationships with full dedication, but if one develops attachments while doing these tasks, then these life relationships become the restraints and shackles for the self.
This limits your own existence. Then neither you are able to fulfil
your relationships, nor can you achieve Perfection and Totality.
When you start destroying your own existence while stuck in the trap
of attachment and relationships, then you should consider that you are ignoring your own self. You yourself are not paying attention to your personality and being.
Focus your attention on your own self
Today, every home is undergoing a strange conflict, a great discord is
occurring in the name of rectifying everyone, and creating a perfect
atmosphere. A father is teaching the definition of ideals to his
children, a son to his parents, and a brother to his sister. Everyone
believes that he himself is right, and everyone else is in the wrong.
Everyone desires others to behave as per his own perspective, and this is the beginning of the struggle of human life. A conflict, which has no end. Maybe it would have been better if we had concentrated on ourselves and shown good conduct and behavior towards others. Leave others to bear the consequences of their deeds. If you strengthen your own personality, then your family and your society will automatically follow you.
Remember that every person in the society is ready to exploit and
abuse you physically and mentally. You yourself are thinking more
about others rather than own self. This will become obvious to you
that whatever you expect from others, you yourself are trying to
impose on them. This has created so much turmoil in your own life.
You only have to think whether you were born alone, or in the company of others. You should think only about your own upliftment by behaving well with others.
Everyone’s own deeds – own fate
Parents, siblings, children, relatives-relations, every relationship
in the world is experiencing their own fate, according to their own
karma deeds. You are neither sad due to their sorrow nor are you happy due to their pleasure. Your ideal duty is that you retain an ideal, balanced behavior with everyone, assist and support them whenever needed from time to time. Maintain your ideal relationships, but do not become obstacles to others. Do not make yourself miserable by trying to cast everyone as per your own wishes. Focus your attention on your own self.
In this life cycle, in the various stages of this life, God expects
from you that you will lead an ideal model life and will complete this
life journey. This sentiment should be repeated regularly.
Man has infinite power, unlimited power. Your personality contains
this power, keep striving to search and activate this power. First
focus on self, concentrate on self to try to understand your own self.
You should help others in resolving their problems, but do not get
stuck in the net of their problems because there is a limit of your
assistance, after which any of your action will not provide happiness
to others. Let him or her get out of their own problems on their own
and let them understand their own personality. Lest your cooperation
becomes a burden on him or her, and crushes their personality. Let
everyone succeed by their own efforts.
Who will understand, Who will explain, this question is very bizarre?
Every person wants to think in terms of own self, someone deceives to obtain sympathy while the other one becomes angry according to his strength. What can you do in this situation. This question is very
“Who will understand, Who will explain”
Analyze your role and do a balanced assessment, whatever is occurring in any situation. You should think deeply about your role in your family-house or society-country. Do your own work. Do not force yourself on others. Remember, your life and time is limited. You have to prove yourself, and define your role within this limitation. The happiness based on others will certainly yield only sorrow in future.Therefore, instead of making multiple expectations from others, you should make yourself so powerful that you do not require support of the wicked or are not dependent on any other person.
You should not regret the fact that you behaved very well with others
while your very own deceived and betrayed you. Oh brother! This is
true fact of life that others will continue to exploit you until you
yourself become strong and empowered. You perform only one task,focus on self and make yourself strong and empowered.
Help others, love them but there are some struggles which they themselves have chosen. In such situations let them continue on their path instead of getting engaged in their conflicts. You cannot be
]responsible for every action of everyone. Remember you can neither
improve nor worsen deeds of others. You can only provide advice or
motivation. Always keep this fact in mind.
Elevate your personality so that other people learn the definition of
life from you. Always remember that you can uplift the entire
community only by concentrating on self. You can provide ideal model environment in the society. Always stay engaged in developing and elevating your personality.
Greatness is in the growth of own personality. Make your personality
simple, natural and uniform; and continue smoothly on this path of
journey of life.
Religion i.e. Pure sense of soul
There is always a thirst of dissatisfaction in life even after
obtaining money, wealth, luxuries-amenities and fame. Because the life lacks peace and soul is interested only in the peace. Moral behavior with a spiritual sense is the only path to peace.
Spiritual Behavior is the purest form of moral conduct. Religion is
defined as “Vatthushavo Dhammo” i.e. the “nature’ of object is itself
the religion. The word Savbhav (Natural conduct) also emphasizes the term “Sav” (Moral), the expression of “Sav” is called Savbhav. If our natural conduct is itself religion, then the question arises, What is
our nature? We regularly continuously tell lies, deceives others,
stoop to any level to earn money or fight with each other, is it our
nature? We indulge in anger, greed and violence, is it our nature?
In reality, this is not our nature. Because we primarily speak the
truth, we tell lies only due to greed or fear. We cannot survive if we
stay angry throughout the day. The anger subsides after some time, and we say that we have now become normal. Thus, our primary condition is not anger, rather it is peace and calm. Anger is contrary to our nature, and calmness is natural behavior. All impulses and charges causing disturbance are contrary to our nature. Our nature is to stay peaceful with virtuous moral conduct; and our religion is to live as per our “nature”.
Another definition of religion is “Yatasya Dhaaryati Sa:H Dharmen” i.e. whatever can be taken, is the religion. It is also an expectation of our natural behavior. Moral nature with pure virtuous conduct is the religion. Therefore, it is directed to be steadfast in natural conduct. This moral conduct and eternal natural behavior is the religion, because peace is the ultimate goal of our life.