Shiv Chakra Sahastraar MahaDiksha
अपनों से अपनी बात…
Dialog with loved
I heard a story once about a man who ran a coffee shop. One day he had a bad headache. By the evening he decided to get a pain reliever from a nearby pharmacy. The pharmacist was not at the store. So he asked his assistant, “Where has Vasant Babu gone?” His assistant replied that he had gone to the nearby coffee store (the same man’s coffee shop) to buy himself a coffee for his headache.
The story carries a deeper meaning. In life, we all have our share of headaches. And we look for their solution externally. This leads us to the thinking that grass is greener on the other side. That disturbs our peace, which is a state of mind. You need to maintain your equipoise. It gets ruffled when you think you are not able to do what you desire.
Instead of being harsh on yourself, try to value your accomplishments and be dedicated to your dreams. By doing so you will maintain the equilibrium between contentment and aspiration. Because if it is not, your life will go in a standstill, or you will be more nervous and impatient than ever before. Have you ever wondered why Delhilites enjoy the peaceful landscape of Manali while the Manali locals enjoy the glamorous Delhi malls. Ultimately, happiness eludes both. Why? Because happiness is dependent on YOU. It is to be felt not to be searched. Yet, we like to suffer. Maybe because in this competitive age, we feel that struggle can lead to happiness even if it is redundant. Often we close our eyes to complain about the darkness; open them and see the beauty around yourself.
When we meet each other we ask, ‘How do you do?” More often than not we answer, I am good. How about you?”
The standard reply about our well being has become more of a reflex than of actually telling each other about our adventurous journey of life. On a deeper level the question relates to our current state of the mind. Are we happy or joyful? Happiness is a state of mind and it is necessary for maintaining physical wellbeing. So each time you have to answer this standard question do take a moment to reflect about your inner state. Only then you will be at peace with yourself.
Whilst you must have asked others this question many times, direct it to yourself now. Look at your reflection in the mirror and smile genuinely. Then call out your name softly and ask yourself, “How are you feeling my friend?” And, speak your heart out without any reservations or camouflage.
As you do this exercise you will start touching your inner being – your soul. You are unhappy because you live in denial. You disregard your feelings and if you accept them reluctantly you have an excuse to validate them. Instead, accept your emotions wholeheartedly. They are genuine. Acknowledging your feelings is the first step in soothing your pain. When you get in sync with your inner being, your emotional turmoil and pain will start to resolve. Gradually, you will feel energetic and adopt a kinder attitude towards yourself.
In these competitive times we undergo a lot of emotional disturbances everyday. A meaningful conversation with yourself will put you in sync with your emotional state. It is not that your grief will disappear but you will also have the energy to overcome them.
As we clean our house daily, we need to tackle our emotions too. Whether you live in a one bedroom flat, a duplex, or a mansion it is just a house, you live there physically. Your permanent abode is your thoughts. They disturb your peace. More often than not when we experience pain, conflict and turmoil we decide to go on a vacation. However, a vacation is incomplete without a mental vacation. It is impossible to run away from your thoughts. Therefore, we need to learn to make peace with them.
Your house is an extension of your personality. Most of us aspire to buy a bigger house. The aspiration is good but a bigger house does not guarantee happiness. It is found internally. Start working on your feelings. Acknowledge the vast gamut of emotions that lie in there – grief, unmet expectations, dissatisfaction, jealousy and anger. You have to tackle each emotion separately and resolve it. Until you do that your happiness will be hollow. It will be tied to achievements and you will be chasing moving goal posts. It is good to make your life large. Yet, success should not come at an expense of happiness. Money buys goods. It doesn’t buy happiness. When you will get in touch with your feelings happiness will no longer elude.
I am with you on this journey. Getting in touch with your mind and the heart to activate your Shiva Chakra – the Sahasrara. Eventually, you will rise above the conflict of emotions and develop an equilibrium which is not dependent on people or achievements. Always remember, if you are disturbed by what others say to you you are letting others control you.
I want you to view yourself from your lens. You are Shiva. What others think of you is their problem. Get in touch with your energies. It is high time you explore yourself. Start this interesting journey. The life will unfold its true colours.
Come, I am with you….|
Nand Kishore Shrimali