Dialog with Loved Ones
Dear loved one,
Today I would like to talk to you directly about the Guru-disciple relationship. Let me explain what is on my mind. I want to direct these words to your heart and the mind. You will forget if you hear just with your ears, but you will not be able to forget if something pierces your mind deeply. The same topic will keep recurring in your mind. Because the circular pace of mind forces you to think about the topic repeatedly.
Often people query me about the features of relationship between the Guru and the disciple. How to define this relationship in simple, easy to understand words, so that everyone comprehends it. I retort – Why do you need to make anyone comprehend it. You just need to understand it yourself. The day you comprehend the intricacies of this relationship yourself, you will not need to explain it to rest of the world.
Every person has three types of relationships in this world – based on requirement, based on trust and based on friendship. Apart from these, there is one additional type of relationship, which is based on love.
When you wait for someone for a few moments, or a few minutes, you do so due to your own needs and requirements. When you wish to get your tasks completed, and you wait for someone for few hours, you do so due to your trust and belief. When you wait for someone with a certain belief that he will turn up, when you wait for someone for weeks, with a real need and trust, when you wait to talk for a couple of moments, then we can say that the relationship is based on the friendship. Going deeper, when you wait for someone, keep waiting for a long time, and remain happy reminiscing his presence within your mind, then such a relationship can be said to be based on love. This, in fact, is the definition of the true love. This is the devotion, the supreme feeling from the mind. Arrival of this feeling diminishes all other emotions.
A simple fact is that your personality is of two types – an outer personality and an inner personality. Everyone can view the external personality, but only you and you yourself can see the inner self. None else can peep in there. If you continue to protect the external personality, decorate and tune it, present it to others with an artificial layer, then that external personality will dominate you. You will start considering this external personality as your identity and this outer personality will eclipse you. Eventually you will get tired protecting this external personality. A heartfelt laughter will be out of the question, and how long can you paste an empty smile on your face. So, do not fake so much that you stop understanding and knowing your own mind.
See, you can hide yourself from others, you can sometimes tell lies to others, you can fake a drama in front of others and maybe, this acting has become a common habit. You were doing this and you are doing this even now. How long will this continue?
You can not escape away from your own mind and your heart. Your mind and heart will accompany you wherever you travel to. You will not be able to escape from your mind even if you sit in cold icy caves or dive deep into the sea. You cannot escape even if you sit in a temple or perform solitude Vipassana Sadhana.
So, it makes a lot of sense if you start to listen to your own inner sound, of your own heart. Try to listen to whatever it is speaking. This is the best, the most opportune moment of your life – when you attain capability to listen to your own mind. There is no need to wait for any place, time, auspicious muhuratha for this. You keep running in the rat-race to fulfil your own needs, now change the direction of this endeavour towards your own inner mind. Do try to perform that task as well, which pleases your own soul.
The relationship of Guru and the disciple is a process to link you to your own mind. You are a disciple and you have considered a real, dynamic alive personality as your Guru. Your life is similar to a tree. Whom does a tree trust more – Its leaves and branches, or its deep drawn roots? What does a bird trust more – its own wings, or the flow of air? It does not fly through the influence of air, it flies only on the strength of its wings. A tree stands on the strength of its own roots, and continues to grow bigger in size. It does not worry at the arrival of the autumn, it knows about the strength of its roots. It knows that it will turn green with leaves, again, when the passage of time.
A disciple also does not get distracted from the external obstacles. He relies on his own inner power and the strength of the Guru-tatva element. He loves his Guru, so he does not worry even if two-four or even ten obstacles arise. He realizes that he is pretty strong from within and that Guru is the basic-foundation of his powers. Guru is his roots. He continues to provide him inner strength.
The wonderful fact about Guru – Disciple relationship is that both depend upon each other, both trust each other and love each other. A dry cold feeling cannot enter into an environment of deep love. Thus Guru has been considered as the Rasa (feeling) nourisher, the Rasheshwar. He continues to ever-nourish like Mahadeva.
Continue to move forward with this elixir spirit, with your strength, with complete perfection; and continue to penetrate deeper within your mind. If your mind gets pleased, then the body will automatically grow healthy and will glow with a radiance. The pride and dignity will usher in. You have to do only one task – to take out time to work according to your mind. The various activities to please your mind are devotion, music and penance. You should always remember that you cannot escape away from this mind. Do something according to your mind, which will grant you inner happiness.
Recently I visited Jharkhand Chinnamasta Shaktipeeth Rajarappa. It was a joyful experience. The core speciality of Siddha Shaktipeeth, Shaktipeeth and pilgrim-holy venues is that they radiate the constant positive consciousness latent within the devotional offerings to the Divine Providence, to Shakti, to deities, to nature by the devotees for thousands of years.
I am inviting you to Lord Ram’s city Ayodhya on the divine occasion of Guru Poornima. You will definitely arrive, upon listening to your own mind.
Nand Kishore Shrimali